Have
you any idea what your core values might be?
No, I
don’t mean that you think it’s important to give to charity. Values don’t
actually have any moral dimension. Each individual value is neither good nor
bad.
What I
mean by ‘values’ are the non-tangible things that you absolutely must have in
your life to feel happy and fulfilled. Like Self expression, or Beauty or Achievement.
Discovering
these, and their order of importance, is one of the most useful pieces of self-
development work you will ever do. Once you know them, you really have a blueprint
for how to live the rest of your life.
You’ll know why you’re feeling particularly
upbeat or down. You’ll know what small action you could take to feel happier
and more fulfilled in any given moment.
This is
because every action you take either honours or dishonours your core values.
Every action you take either honours of dishonours - YOU.
Discovering
your core values is a vital part of the work that I do with my
coaching clients. You can have a go yourself:
A good way
to start is to think of a time when you felt absolutely great, on top of the
world, really, really happy and fulfilled. What do you think it was about
yourself that you were honouring?
The
converse is also true. Think of a time when you felt low or depressed or
miserable. It was one of your values that you were dishonouring. Which one?
When I
was training, I had a great coach myself, Francine Kaye, now a top relationship
coach www.thedivorcedoctor.co.uk. She said this to me. I tell
all my clients and I’d like to share with you.
“It is
never the, person, situation or circumstance that upsets or frustrates me. It
is always a value of mine that is being dishonoured or violated.”
Wow!
Talk about having to take responsibility for your own life.
